Four Ways To Care For a Partner Struggling With Mental or Behavioral Health

Thrive • Feb 14, 2022

By Thrive Waco’s Coordinator of Clinical Services Brooke Hill-Allen, Ph.D., LPC-S, LMFT, NCC, BC-TMH

A mental or behavioral health condition can overwhelm a partner as they struggle to understand their significant other’s diagnosis, support them through their healing, and cope with their own emotions. Although recovery can be challenging , the couple may embrace the journey as an opportunity to grow stronger individually and within their relationship. Below, discover strategies for caring for a partner with a mental or behavioral health concern. 

1. LISTEN TO YOUR LOVED ONE.

Mental and behavioral health conditions affect individuals differently, varying in severity and symptoms. By listening to your significant other describe their mental or behavioral health experience, you show your partner that you care enough to attempt to comprehend their challenges. With a greater grasp of their struggle, you’re also more inclined to encourage their recovery. 

2. NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Mental and behavioral health concerns can feel all-consuming for the affected person and their significant other. To maintain the health of their relationship , partners should engage in open communication and spend quality time together. As they nurture their relationship, couples are less likely to blame relationship challenges on a partner’s mental or behavioral health condition, and are more likely to strengthen their bond as they work toward healing together.

3. CARE FOR YOURSELF.

While helping your significant other who’s struggling with their mental or behavioral health, your own self-care habits may slip. By prioritizing your self-care , you can be a better caregiver for your significant other. So, be sure to carve out time to eat adequately and consistently , maintain good sleep hygiene , engage in mindful movement , and invest in your own interests. 

4. SEEK THERAPEUTIC SUPPORT INDIVIDUALLY OR AS A COUPLE.

Attending therapy can impart insight into your significant other’s mental or behavioral health condition, while also equipping you with strategies to help foster their healing. You may also consider joining a support group for loved ones of individuals with a mental or behavioral health condition. Additionally, couples therapy can grant expert guidance as partners navigate a mental or behavioral health condition within the relationship. 

MENTAL AND BEHAVIORAL HEALTH SUPPORT AT THRIVE 

From anxiety and depression to eating disorders and perinatal mental health conditions , Thrive offers integrated treatment for mental and behavioral health conditions as well as individual and couples therapy. Contact us to learn more. 

About the Author

Thrive Waco’s Coordinator of Clinical Services Brooke Hill-Allen, Ph.D., LPC-S, LMFT, NCC, BC-TMH

​​Dr. Hill-Allen is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor (LPC-S) in Texas and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in Washington as well as an AAMFT Board Approved Supervisor with more than a decade of clinical experience. She has had the privilege of working in many multidisciplinary teams in several different therapeutic settings including community agencies, university counseling centers, and private practice. Dr. Hill-Allen’s theoretical approach is eclectic, meaning she incorporates multiple therapeutic styles such as Person-Centered Therapy and Family Systems. Because life can be uncertain and flexibility is important for providing treatment, Dr. Hill-Allen is also a Board Certified TeleMental Health Provider.

Dr. Hill-Allen holds a doctorate in marriage and family therapy from Texas Tech University, a master’s degree in counseling from the University of Houston–Victoria, and a bachelor’s degree in sociology and social work from Baylor University. Dr. Hill-Allen has a wealth of experience working with clients from a variety of different backgrounds as well as a wide variety of presenting concerns.

As the coordinator of clinical services at Thrive Wellness Waco, Dr. Hill-Allen is passionate about providing an environment that fosters safety and growth while also offering equitable and accessible multicultural mental health services to the BIPOC community.

Brooke is a Texas native and in her free time enjoys family time with her husband and son.

By Sage Tippie 23 Apr, 2024
Spring Cleaning Benefits for Mental Health Spring is a time of new beginnings, change, and transitions, including in our homes. With the warmer weather kicking motivation into high gear, Spring can be a prime time to do a deep clean. Not only is a clean space aesthetically pleasing to the eyes, but it can also help to improve your mental health. Learn about how tidying up your space can also tidy up your thoughts below along with tips for cleaning when you’re struggling with your mental health. 4 Reasons Why Cleaning is Beneficial to Mental health 1.Decreased Stress Not only does an uncluttered space provide a sense of calm, but the physical act of cleaning can release feel-good endorphins, reducing feelings of stress and anxiety. As you cross tasks off your checklist, your body also releases Dopamine. Also known as the “happy hormone”, Dopamine provides a sense of accomplishment and pride that can promote motivation in other areas of our lives. 2. Improved Focus Studies have shown that an uncluttered space can also lead to an uncluttered mind. Your focus can be drawn away from important tasks by a chaotic, messy space. Research has also shown a connection between procrastination and clutter, as an unwillingness to tackle larger chores like cleaning can translate over into various areas of our lives. By keeping your space tidy, it can inspire you to stay on top of other major tasks like work and school assignments. 3. Regulated Emotions According to this 2015 study , cleaning can function as a practice in mindfulness, providing an increased sense of calm and inspiration. Slowing down while cleaning gives you room to relax and free your mind of burdens, stressors, and irritants that can affect your mental health. Cleaning can even be considered a practice of self-care as the action helps you to connect with yourself and the outcome allows you to better enjoy your own space. 4. Sense of Order and Control When experiencing mental health struggles, people may feel a lack of control over their lives and emotions. Cleaning even small areas of the home can provide an increased sense of order and control as you cross tasks off your to-do list. Through realizing your own power by simply completing minor tasks like cleaning, it can reaffirm your ability to do more. 10 Tips for Cleaning When Struggling with Mental Health Mental health struggles and disorders commonly create barriers to one’s ability to clean and properly practice personal hygiene. Although these behaviors are normal side effects of mental health disorders, we want to work to aid our clients in cleaning to the best of their ability even in difficult times. Below, Thrive Wellness occupational therapist Meadow Deason shares some helpful tips she gives to clients when they struggle with cleaning due to mental health conditions: 1.Ask For Help Having support to clean can make a huge difference. Do the cleaning with the person helping you and have them hold you accountable. 2. Don't Wait for Motivation Motivation might not come before action, but it can build as you begin to see the results of your efforts. 3. Start Small Start with one area or one task and go from there. For example, concentrate on your bedroom first and then move on to the living room and bathroom. 4. Do Something Daily Even if you do only one small cleaning task a day, doing that one task creates momentum and prevents small tasks from building up and becoming overwhelming. 5. Use Sensory Modulation Change your environment by playing music, adjusting the lighting, or using aromatherapy. This can help to put you in a new headspace for cleaning. 6. Start with "High Impact" Tasks Start with more intensive or all-over cleaning tasks such as picking up clutter or doing the dishes. The visual "noise" of some tasks makes a large impact on the entire space, building motivation to continue cleaning. 7. Make a To-Do List Write a detailed to-do list of tasks and cross them off as you go. Physically marking down what you’ve accomplished can promote increased motivation. 8. Reward Yourself Set up a reward system where you reward yourself with a favorite activity or item when you complete a task as an incentive to clean. 9. Use the Rocket Method Don't think about it, just choose a task, countdown from five or ten and then start. This can help you to avoid potential anxiety and dread that can prevent you from cleaning. 10. Gamify Tasks Make up a game for your tasks or time yourself to promote increased engagement in cleaning. Your ability to complete tasks can be affected by a multitude of different factors and conditions including OCD , anxiety, depression , ADHD , and more. If you are struggling with motivation due to your mental health, help is here at Thrive Wellness.
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