Finding Support for Perinatal Mental Health Struggles

Thrive • Nov 20, 2020

New Parents and Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders

Whether going through pregnancy or the adoption process, new parents undergo a rollercoaster ride of emotions as they welcome baby(ies) into their lives. This significant life change isn’t always straightforward or easy to process. Some new parents must deal with difficult birth experiences, unresolved trauma, and fears related to being a parent. Many new parents struggle to bond with their baby, face severe mood imbalances, and struggle to completely welcome the change into their lives.

Perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs) affect many new parents during the perinatal period, which lasts from pregnancy up to one year following birth. PMADs can refer to depression, anxiety, panic disorder, OCD, bipolar disorder, psychosis, and PTSD during the perinatal period. The term “baby blues,” has a milder connotation than PMADs and can describe similar symptoms, but usually resolve within two weeks. If you are a new parent who feels like the “baby blues,” are interfering with your ability to function normally, you may be struggling with something more severe — a PMAD.  Many new parents struggling with mood imbalances feel isolated, guilty, ashamed and judged. They are not alone. There are many new parents that are coping with similar struggles.

Processing Perinatal Loss and Grief

The loss of a pregnancy or infant is often thought of as a disenfranchised loss. Disenfranchised loss and grief is any loss that is not universally recognized as a significant loss by society. When a loss goes unacknowledged or is minimized or invalidated, it is difficult for the person who is grieving to process and heal.

For example, if someone loses a parent, spouse, or grown child, it is recognized as a significant loss. But when someone suffers the loss of a pet, a job, or related to the perinatal period… miscarriage, stillbirth, molar pregnancy, or even infertility struggles, most people do not recognize the loss as significant because “the child was not born yet”. People might respond with sentiments like, “At least this happened now, before you got to know the baby and become attached.” Or, if an individual were to lose an infant, people may react by saying, “At least it happened early, you can always try again.”

Loss is painful no matter what the stage of life is in which it occurs. Everyone has their own healing process, which usually requires support from others. “There is no one way to grieve.” says Thrive Clinical Director Celia Zisman. “You have to teach people how to be with you, how to treat you and react to you.” Grief can feel lonely, especially when the loss feels minimized by society. You don’t have to grieve alone. Our specialists, programs and support groups offer avenues to processing and healing from the loss of a pregnancy or infant, as well as other disenfranchised losses such as those due to infertility and reproductive issues, as well as struggles with adoption.

Let’s Thrive Together! 

Our new intensive outpatient program for perinatal mental health is called “It Takes a Village”. This program is designed for parents struggling with PMADs, trouble bonding with baby, and adjusting to parenthood. Parents have so much to adjust to, and sometimes one hour of therapy each week is not enough. This program meets five days a week. In addition to individual therapy, the program includes different group therapy activities which are evidenced-based to aid in the recovery process. Being surrounded by people going through similar situations as you is extremely beneficial to help support you and get you on the road to recovery.

Thrive also offers two free support groups for individuals struggling with perinatal mental health. One is specifically tailored to those struggling with grief and loss related to a miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, early infant death, molar pregnancies and/or other complications. The other group is intended for parents struggling through pregnancy, postpartum, baby blues and other mental health challenges in the perinatal period.

Zisman often relays the quote by Postpartum International: “You are not alone, you are not to blame, and with help you will get better.” It is okay to feel overwhelmed. It is okay to grieve. It is okay to not be okay. Thrive is here for you. We want to support you and help you heal. Start thriving with us today! Call us at 775-525-8103 to learn more about our perinatal mental health programs and support groups.

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Spring Cleaning Benefits for Mental Health Spring is a time of new beginnings, change, and transitions, including in our homes. With the warmer weather kicking motivation into high gear, Spring can be a prime time to do a deep clean. Not only is a clean space aesthetically pleasing to the eyes, but it can also help to improve your mental health. Learn about how tidying up your space can also tidy up your thoughts below along with tips for cleaning when you’re struggling with your mental health. 4 Reasons Why Cleaning is Beneficial to Mental health 1.Decreased Stress Not only does an uncluttered space provide a sense of calm, but the physical act of cleaning can release feel-good endorphins, reducing feelings of stress and anxiety. As you cross tasks off your checklist, your body also releases Dopamine. Also known as the “happy hormone”, Dopamine provides a sense of accomplishment and pride that can promote motivation in other areas of our lives. 2. Improved Focus Studies have shown that an uncluttered space can also lead to an uncluttered mind. Your focus can be drawn away from important tasks by a chaotic, messy space. Research has also shown a connection between procrastination and clutter, as an unwillingness to tackle larger chores like cleaning can translate over into various areas of our lives. By keeping your space tidy, it can inspire you to stay on top of other major tasks like work and school assignments. 3. Regulated Emotions According to this 2015 study , cleaning can function as a practice in mindfulness, providing an increased sense of calm and inspiration. Slowing down while cleaning gives you room to relax and free your mind of burdens, stressors, and irritants that can affect your mental health. Cleaning can even be considered a practice of self-care as the action helps you to connect with yourself and the outcome allows you to better enjoy your own space. 4. Sense of Order and Control When experiencing mental health struggles, people may feel a lack of control over their lives and emotions. Cleaning even small areas of the home can provide an increased sense of order and control as you cross tasks off your to-do list. Through realizing your own power by simply completing minor tasks like cleaning, it can reaffirm your ability to do more. 10 Tips for Cleaning When Struggling with Mental Health Mental health struggles and disorders commonly create barriers to one’s ability to clean and properly practice personal hygiene. Although these behaviors are normal side effects of mental health disorders, we want to work to aid our clients in cleaning to the best of their ability even in difficult times. Below, Thrive Wellness occupational therapist Meadow Deason shares some helpful tips she gives to clients when they struggle with cleaning due to mental health conditions: 1.Ask For Help Having support to clean can make a huge difference. Do the cleaning with the person helping you and have them hold you accountable. 2. Don't Wait for Motivation Motivation might not come before action, but it can build as you begin to see the results of your efforts. 3. Start Small Start with one area or one task and go from there. For example, concentrate on your bedroom first and then move on to the living room and bathroom. 4. Do Something Daily Even if you do only one small cleaning task a day, doing that one task creates momentum and prevents small tasks from building up and becoming overwhelming. 5. Use Sensory Modulation Change your environment by playing music, adjusting the lighting, or using aromatherapy. This can help to put you in a new headspace for cleaning. 6. Start with "High Impact" Tasks Start with more intensive or all-over cleaning tasks such as picking up clutter or doing the dishes. The visual "noise" of some tasks makes a large impact on the entire space, building motivation to continue cleaning. 7. Make a To-Do List Write a detailed to-do list of tasks and cross them off as you go. Physically marking down what you’ve accomplished can promote increased motivation. 8. Reward Yourself Set up a reward system where you reward yourself with a favorite activity or item when you complete a task as an incentive to clean. 9. Use the Rocket Method Don't think about it, just choose a task, countdown from five or ten and then start. This can help you to avoid potential anxiety and dread that can prevent you from cleaning. 10. Gamify Tasks Make up a game for your tasks or time yourself to promote increased engagement in cleaning. Your ability to complete tasks can be affected by a multitude of different factors and conditions including OCD , anxiety, depression , ADHD , and more. If you are struggling with motivation due to your mental health, help is here at Thrive Wellness.
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